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The Power Of "I AM"

The Power of “I AM”.

The words which follow these 2 simple words are the most powerful you will use in your lifetime.

 Seriously, think about how many times you say these 2 words followed by a (usually) negative sentence?

  •  I’m too fat, thin, lazy, tired, depressed, and so on.
  • I’m no good at …..  maths, sport, writing, blah blah blah
  • I’m unlucky, unloveable, not smart, dumb etc etc etc

When you say these words out loud, or even in your head to yourself you are reinforcing them and cementing them into your subconscious, which is the driving force behind everything.

So then when you are desperately trying to convince yourself that you CAN actually do something, your subconscious mind simply laughs at you and says, "No, you dumbass, you can’t do it, -  remember??"

Your Subconscious Mind

Your subconscious accepts what is impressed upon it with feeling and repetition, whether or not these thoughts are positive or negative.

It does not evaluate things like your conscious mind does.

This is why our words and thoughts are SO important.

 The subconscious doesn’t discriminate, judge, or censor. It will manifest failure, ill health, and misfortune, just as easily as it will good health, love, success, and abundance.

  The things we tell ourselves are what we become!!


Your Beliefs

The things that we have told ourselves over and over again, usually over a period of many years. eventually become our beliefs.

A Belief is simply something we have told ourselves so often over and over again, (or someone else has told us repeatedly) until it becomes 'cemented' in our mind and we believe it to be true.

This means that a huge percentage of our beliefs may actually be UNTRUE.

We have been lying to ourselves or someone else has been lying to us.


Planting The Seeds For A New Life

The Good News

The good news is that we CAN turn this around and use it to our advantage.

We can learn to re-train our subconscious mind with positive "I am's". The change won't happen overnight just as the negative beliefs didn't happen overnight.

We will need to be consistent and determined. However, the rewards will be Life Changing...


Affirmations and Visualisation

Believe in them or not, the power of daily affirmations and visualisation has been proven and well documented.

The famous golfer Jack Niklaus is renowned as having said:

I have never hit a shot, not even in practice, without having a very sharp, in-focus picture of it in my head."

It is almost common practice now for psychologists to be brought into sports teams to teach the players the power of visualising their gameplays. 

Be Like A Child

Nothing is out of bounds when you affirm and visualize.

Start by writing down all your negative "I ams."

Now re-write them all, changing them around to positive ones.

Recite them daily, out loud, as often as you can with feeling and emotion.

Visualise the things you want as you would have done as a child. Nothing is too big or off limits.

Write affirmations for the things you want to achieve in your life and when you say them out loud visualize them at the same time.

Stay consistent and be persistent - for some people making a vision board can help.

Catch Yourself

Most importantly and above all else, whenever you find yourself saying or thinking a negative "I AM", catch yourself and immediately correct the sentence to a positive one with deep feeling and meaning.

Do this over and over again and if you are consistent you will find that within a relatively short space of time this will become a habit.

Once it becomes a habit the negative "I ams" will occur less and less.

Inevitably over time, your beliefs will change and your life along with it. 




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NEVER Give Away Your Power

NEVER Give Away Your Power

Respect people but NEVER give away your power to another who you perceive to be ‘better’ in some way than you.

 You give away your power WHEN:

  • You allow yourself to feel ‘put down’ by someone
  • You ‘react’ to something someone says or you feel the need to defend yourself
  • You give someone too much respect just because they have more of something than you; be it money, authority, or just followers on social media
  • You feel ‘obligated’ to say yes when you don’t really want to.
  • You decide to ‘settle’ for something because you are afraid of the alternative and you feel the need to ‘fit in.’
  • You do not GIVE YOURSELF the respect you deserve.


You are Powerful Beyond Measure

Sometimes we have not been taught from an early age just how wonderful we really are. We may be told "not to be so stupid", that we are "not good enough", or "who do we think we are!".

We learn from an early age the perceived 'value' of 'fitting in' because being different causes us to be ridiculed.

We may even go along with other people's points of view and opinions rather than voice our own.

We learn that in order to be a 'good person' we must sacrifice our own wants and desires to please those of others.

Eventually, we give away much of our power to other people or society in general.

We then wonder many years later why we feel bereft, unhappy and often unworthy.

We may dislike or even hate ourselves.

Self Love

Usually, we are taught that self-love is being selfish.

Just cast your mind back to when you were taught this and by whom...

Wasn't it usually by someone who instead wanted you to do what THEY wanted you to do? Because what they wanted was more important than what you wanted...

I am certainly not saying that we should not respect others or that we should be selfish. 

I AM saying that we should AT THE VERY LEAST afford ourselves the same respect we show to others, if not more.

If we do not value ourselves then how can we expect others to value and respect us?

If our own opinions and desires are of no consequence or value to us then why should other people see us or value us any differently.

We must CHOOSE to LOVE ourselves first and foremost and this means realising just how powerful and worthy we are and by learning NEVER to give away your power to others.


If you find you often have negative self beliefs you may find it helpful to download my '9 Steps to Changing the Paradigm' PDF 


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The Power Of Gratitude


Practicing Gratitude Is Powerful

I spoke in a recent blog post about the importance of having a daily routine; of knowing, of planning ahead and knowing exactly what you're going to do each day.

What I didn't mention was, you also need to allow a certain amount of time each day to work on your mindset.

Now, I know everyone bangs on about mindset, but it is so important, especially if you're not feeling positive or you're not in a good place at the moment.

Maybe you just feel as though you're not getting any nearer to achieving your goals, and if so then it is important that you're focusing on what you HAVE got, rather than what you haven't got.

Gratitude Journal

One of the things I recommend is keeping a daily gratitude journal.

What I suggest is to write down things that you're grateful for in your life, and no matter where you are in your life at the moment, even if you're feeling quite low, I'm quite sure that there are many things in your life which you can feel grateful for.

The fact that you've got a roof over your head, that you've got food to eat, that you've got a nice, warm, comfy bed at night, (hopefully you've got a lot more things), maybe you've got family as well that you're grateful for and friends and so much more.

Add five things a day to your gratitude journal, and write it on your phone, in your notes, and look at it last thing at night, and first thing in the morning.

You Get What You Think About

If you are focusing on, and thinking continuously things such as, "I'm not getting any closer to achieving the income that I want", or the new house, the new car, whatever it is that you're wanting, then you're focusing on lack, and you're going to attract even more lack into your life.

If you're doing a gratitude journal, then you're concentrating on the things that you are grateful for in your life, and that you are happy about in your life, and you will therefore attract more things to be grateful for in your life.

Too Busy?

Maybe you've got a really busy day or you've not got a lot of spare time. If you can, try and set aside two 30 minute periods a day. If you absolutely can't do that, then two 15 minute periods.

In one 15 minute period, you could read from a book, (read a chapter at least), from a positive book. If you need any suggestions for great books, email me, Carole, at

I know loads of really good books you can read, and then for the other 15 minute period work on your gratitude journal, and/or do some meditation.

This doesn't have to be any mumbo-jumbo type of thing  One of my mentors advises just to sit and relax, concentrate on your breathing, and just keep saying to yourself over and over, "release, release, release".

If you do this for about 10 minutes, it can be incredibly powerful.

I meditate daily. If you would like to know more about the meditations I find helpful, just drop me an email.

Daily Gratitude

These are just suggestions and recommendations for you but please do set time aside for gratitude. It reminds us to have a positive mindset which is incredibly important.

See my post about whether it is better to be optimistic or pessimistic.

If you need more self belief and self love in your life go to my short meditation video for this

Make it a part of your daily routine and it can and will change your life if you allow it.


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Meditation For Self Belief and Self Love


 Power Of Meditation

I am a great believer in the power of meditation and I practice this daily.

One of the things I believe we all need more of is self belief and self love, which is why I created this short meditation.

I believe that many of the illnesses and diseases which exist in the world today could be prevented and even healed if we all had more self love.

If you are suffering from illness or disease or simply a lack of self love I highly recommend daily mediatation and I have excellent resources if you wish to contact me at [email protected]

I would love to hear from you.

A life changing book I recommend is "Dying to be Me', by Anita Moorjani.

It has the power to change your life if you will let it.


Carole Wildman

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Custom Thumbnail For Youtube Videos


How To Create Thumbnails For Youtube Videos

I am often asked how to make custom thumbnails for youtube videos, so I thought I would do a quick screen share to show you how.

As you are probably aware it is possible to create your own thumbnail for your youtube videos and upload them.

The best and easiest way that I know is by using a fantastic free tool called canva at

In canva you can create posts for all your social media platforms and I show you how to create a branded quote here.

No need to worry about getting the correct size for your youtube thumbnail as the correct size is already preloaded in canva if you just select youtube thumbnail as shown in the above video.

Background and Text

You have the flexibilty to choose your own background from a range of photos and textured backgrounds already there for you in canva or you may upload your own.

There are a range of pre-set fonts for you to choose when adding text to your image and you may choose not only the font, but the size and colour also.

You can even adjust the spacing between the lettering and the line spacing as you wish.

There is also the ability to change the transparency.

Logo and Call To Action

There is the flexibility to upload your own logos or any icons that you may have or you can choose from a variety of free icons, shapes and much more already there for the choosing on Canva.

I actually cannot believe this wonderful tool is still free and I use it all of the time!

It is ideal for creating your own logos, social media headers and much, much, more also.

Go check it out at and have a play around with it.

If you need any help with your marketing, please reach out to me. I have some excellent trainings and resources available.

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How To Create A Branded Quote For Social Media



Creating Branded Images 

A lot of people have been asking me how I create my branded quotes on social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter,  Instagram and so on.

I thought therefore that I would do a quick screen share video to show you how easy it is using the free version of Canva.

I also show you how to make a custom thumbnail for your youtube videos here

It's so easy with Canva. Just go to and choose which social media platform you would like to create an image for.

The correct sizings are already there,  just click and go or you can add your custom sizes if you wish as shown in the above video.

Background and Text

Canva has a range of free pictures you may use and background colours, shapes. icons and much more, or you can upload your own as I do in the above example.

There are a range of pre-set fonts for you to choose when adding text to your image and you may choose not only the font, but the size and colour also.

You can even adjust the spacing between the lettering and the line spacing as you wish.

There is also the ability to change the transparency.

Logo and Call To Action

There is the flexibility to upload your own logos or any icons that you may have or you can choose from a variety of free icons, shapes and much more already there for the choosing on Canva.

I actually cannot believe this wonderful tool is still free and I use it all of the time!

It is ideal for creating your own logos, social media headers and much, much, more also.

Go check it out at and have a play around with it.


If you need any help with your marketing, please reach out to me. I have some excellent trainings and resources available.

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Overwhelm In Your Business


What To Do When You're Feeling Overwhelmed

Are you suffering from overwhelm in your business?

After all, it's very easy to find yourself in this situation, isn't it?

You've got your own other personal commitments. You may have family commitments too, maybe you've got another job as well, and you're also trying to run a business.

Sometimes you feel as though that you're not getting anything done at all. There's so much in your head that you want to do that you end up running around chasing your own tail and doing practically nothing.

Routine, routine, routine

Routines are the answer. Years ago I ran 2 successful businesses as well as having 5 children at home. I look back sometimes and wonder how I coped. Other people ask me how on earth I coped. Sometimes I say I don't know.

Then I stop and say, "Actually I DO know". It was all about having great routines.

If I hadn't had those I would have been toast! Nothing would have got done and I would have collapsed under the strain.

Stop The Overwhelm

So, you've got to have a routine, you've got to just stop the overwhelm, otherwise you're just not going to be productive at all.

This means stopping doing things as well as starting to do things.


  • Stop checking your phone.
  • Stop constantly scrolling through Facebook and checking your emails every two minutes.

Be disciplined about this, and don't check your phone first thing when you get out of bed.

Have set times in the day, set aside maybe 10 or 15 minutes two or three times a day, when you allow yourself to check your phone and answer your messages, but be disciplined about this.

Put your phone away.

Do not look at it all the time.


Know exactly what you're going to do the next day.

In the evening when you get a little bit of spare time, plan out your day, preferably, plan out your week, maybe on a Sunday or whatever day is best for you.

Try to plan out your whole week so that you know every day when you get up in the morning exactly what you're going to do.

If you don't plan then you don't know what to do first; you think, maybe I'll start doing such a thing, and then you start it, and then you get distracted, and oh, maybe I'll do something else, and then before you know where you are, your day's gone or your evening's gone, and you've done nothing truly useful at all.

Stick to one strategy at a time.

No Such Thing As Multi-tasking

We think we can multi-task, and yes I used to think I was the queen of multi-tasking, but it's just not true.

It's been proven we can ONLY concentrate on one thing clearly at a time.

Don't start posting on Facebook, nip over to Twitter, go on to Instagram, try and do a blog post, start contacting people, and so on and on and on.

When we try and split ourselves into lots of fragments we end up being totally fragmented and doing nothing well at all.

So, be disciplined, don't keep checking your phone, plan ahead what you're going to do with each day, and concentrate on one strategy at a time.

If you need any help with your planning and marketing, please reach out to me. I have some excellent planning sheets and trainings available.

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Coping With Lack Of Motivation


Lack Of Motivation

What can you do when you're facing a lack of motivation?

That's something that we all suffer from sometimes, don't we?

Sometimes it can happen quite frequently, sometimes it's not very often, yet we all have times when we're just not feeling motivated.

If you're in an online business you've probably heard that if you're not doing the work and you're not feeling motivated, then you're not connected with your why.

That's could be true to a certain extent. Nevertheless, we are all are going to feel a lack of motivation at some point.

What Helps

One of the things I've found that helps me if I'm not feeling motivated is to write down things that I'm grateful for in my life, and there are so many things, thankfully, that I have to be grateful for.

I think that probably goes for the majority of us.

I'm sure we can all make a list of family and friends, or lots of other things to be grateful for.

Even if you think you haven't, or you don't feel like you've got very much to be grateful for in your life, there's always something.

Do you have fresh water to drink, hot water for a shower or a bath, a comfortable bed to get into at night, a warm duvet, just basic shelter?

Thankfully most of us do have, but not everybody in the world, l know.

However, the majority of us do and doing a simple thing such as writing a list down of things to be grateful for always helps me.

Law Of Attraction

Keeping a gratitude journal is a great idea also.

If you think about the Law of Attraction, I'm sure we've all heard of that, then we probably know the importance of trying to control what we're thinking about.

Whatever you're putting out there with your thoughts, you're attracting more of the same back, so it's important to remain as positive as you can be.

The same goes for gratitude. If you're thinking about things that you're grateful for everyday, you're going to attract more things to be grateful for into your life, so it's a really worthwhile thing to do.

I know it always bucks me up.

I watched a short video, a six-minute video about gratitude recently that really made me smile and made me feel even more grateful to be here and for my life.

If you want to watch it the link is here.

There are, of course, other ways of regaining motivation, but my favourite method is the gratitude method.

Reach out to me and let me know what you find helps you the best at [email protected]

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5 Ways To Get More Self Belief


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How Do You Get More Self Belief?

Today I'm asking the question, what do you do if you're suffering from a lack of self belief?

This is something which happens to everybody at some point in their lives.

It probably stems back from when we're younger, when we're growing up and maybe our parents and our teachers might have said to us, "don't be silly, you can't possibly be that ballerina or that astronaut", or whatever it is we aspired to be.

Of course, they had our best interests at heart. They were trying to protect us when they told us that we wouldn't be able to do that.

The problem is that we then grow up with an attitude and mindset that we're not going to be able to achieve our goals and our dreams and that we're not good enough.

We have that lack of self belief going forward then throughout our lives.

So, what can we do about that?

5 Steps

1. Ask Yourself, "What Might Happen?"

There are several things and firstly, I would say, ask yourself, if you do attempt to do whatever it is that you're wanting to do, what is the worst thing that could happen? 

  • Maybe you won't achieve it? 

Yeah, maybe you won't, but maybe you actually WILL achieve it, and is it really worth not attempting something just in case you fail?  Failure is actually a massive part of success. No-one has had great success without failing, usually several times, along the way.

2. Stop thinking or wondering what other people think and just do it. 

There's a great saying,

"whatever other people think of you is none of your business".

It really isn't and the chances are they're not thinking that anyway.

If you think people may laugh at you, yes its possible, but actually they usually don't. Normally it's all just in our own minds!

3. Create a Plan and Stick To It

Create a 30 day, and a 90 day plan. Start with the 90 day plan firstly and then break it down into monthly ones, then weekly and daily. If you know what you're going to be doing each day it creates self belief as it makes it much more achievable.

4. Commit to doing something every day

Don't just try something for a few days and then say, ah, it didn't work. Commit absolutely to at least 90 days. If you continuously do something for 90 days, you will establish a habit and you will have made some progress. Commit to doing something every single day towards achieving your goal.  Your self belief will increase.

5. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

Yeah, you're going to feel afraid. Feel the fear. Do it anyway. Work through it. Fear is something which everybody suffers with and it's just false evidence appearing real. Most of the time it's not real, it's just something we tell ourselves. So, just work hard to push through it and remember that you're not the only person to feel like this.

Everyone feels fear

Everybody feels fear at some point in their lives, even the most successful people.

I can tell you a secret. Some incredibly successful people have told me that they still suffer from a lack of self belief at times even though they may have achieved everything or almost everything that they wanted to.

So, accept it's normal. Decide to work through it. To push through it. To feel the fear. To do it anyway. Stick to a plan and just work towards your goal. Don't let a lack of self esteem stop you. Please don't.

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Are You An Amateur Or A Pro?


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Amateur Or Pro?

Are you being a professional or an amateur in your business?

And heck, what's the difference?

Basically, A professional is in it for the long haul.

They don't need instant gratification.

The amateur expects results straight away, and when that doesn't happen, they get discouraged.

  • A professional still has doubts.
  • They DO feel a little discouraged at times.
  • But they do it anyway. They push through.
  • They feel the fear and the doubts. But they don't let it stop them.
  • They show up day after day.
  • They're consistent.

An amateur, however, when the doubts set in, if they're not getting instant results, they let it paralyze them.

They might not do any work that day. They might not do any work for the week.

Their own self doubts limit them.

There's a really cool book by Steven Pressfield called The War of Art.

In it he says,

"the professional masters the how, and leaves the what and why to the gods".

An amateur on the other hand is obsessed with the details.

They devour and they want to know all the in's and out's, (which is good), but they will spend hours and hours doing the training without actually doing the work.

They'll use it as an excuse not to do the work because they'll say, "well I need to learn a bit more. I haven't learned enough yet".

Daily Action

  • The professional knows that they need to take action every day.
  • A professional accepts no excuses.
  • They will be there day after day no matter how they feel.
  • They won't let anything stop them.

An amateur will let anything stop them basically.

And continue to make excuses.

They might work really hard for a day, a week, heck maybe even a month.

Then they might take a week or a month or two off and not do anything.

Which one are you?

Are You being a Professional or an amateur?

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