The main reasons why people don't achieve their goals is that they go about it in the wrong way.
What do I mean by that?
A goal can be anything from deciding to lose weight, get fitter, improve a relationship, get a better job - or A job, start a business, buy a house.
Clearly it can be any number of things.
Whatever it may be, there are 5 steps which must be followed in order to give any goal the best possible chance of being achieved.
Become crystal clear about what it is you want to achieve, write it down and absolutely know and believe that you can and will do what it takes to achieve it.
For example; Don't say I'll lose 20 pounds in a week or I'll save 30 grand in a year if your annual salary is 35k.
It must be realistic and achievable.
Challenge yourself by all means - but don't be too over the top.
Most goals large and small can be broken down into 5 steps.
For example: Lose 7 pounds in 2 weeks or 3 weeks your 5 steps might be to:
Ask yourself - whose help will I need to achieve this goal?
For example - If you're Saving money for a house you may need to stop buying birthday presents or eating out.
Most ppl will be incredibly supportive if you just take the time to explain why this means so much to you.
What are the benefits for you and how will your life change in a more positive way?
In the losing weight example these things could be:
Pin this list up everywhere you will see it during the day,
on your desktop computer, bathroom mirror etc
Read this list aloud several times per day whilst you
visualise yourself having achieved this goal as you are reading.
Follow these 5 steps and start achieving your goals in life.
If you need any help with your planning and marketing, please reach out to me. I have some excellent planning sheets and trainings available.
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Why do we so often feel afraid when we really want to do something when we often know it will ultimately be beneficial for us?
I'm not talking about real fear like when your life is in danger or that of a loved one - the FEAR I'm talking about here is the perceived fear so many people have when they want to do something to improve their lives which may take them out of their comfort zone.
One of the main reasons for the fear most people feel is that they fear "loss pain".
An example of loss pain could be if someone wants to lose weight they may fear the pain of not being able to eat their favourite foods any more, and they tend to focus on the loss rather than focusing on the positive outcomes that losing weight will bring.
They may also fear that they will not have sufficient willpower to lose the weight or that they may regain it again even if they do manage to lose it.
If they were to focus more on the positives and the things they would gain by losing the weight; such as being able to get into the type of clothes they want to wear and feeling healthier and having more energy, then they would be far more likely to achieve their goal.
The same goes for giving up smoking or drinking. The social aspect may play a part also as they fear they will miss their smoking breaks, or socialising at the pub. They don't focus on the health benefits such as no longer waking up with a cough or a hangover.
Ultimately the social benefits could vastly improve if they take up new hobbies and gain new interests, friends & acquaintances along the way.
Letting fear control your life also applies sometimes when people think about starting a business. They may fear the 'loss pain' of giving up their jobs and income, or they may think people will laugh at them or that they may fail.
Start your business part time so you don't have to give up your job until you can afford to. Yes it's going to take hard work but think about your goals that you want to achieve.
Do you want things for yourself? Financial freedom? To be able to do things with and for your family? To donate to your favourite charity and do good in the world? Y
Yes of course it is possible that some people may laugh at you along the way - but most people who really care about you won't!
Are you going to let that 1% of people who you probably don't really want as friends deny you your dreams??
Yes you may have failures along the way - You know what? - MOST people do!! Some of the most successful people in history EVER failed many times before achieving their goals.
If your goals are BIG enough and they mean enough to you they're worth the effort and self sacrifice.
Ultimately letting fear control your life is a waste of a life.
Most of the time the fear is without grounds and as they say; most people on their death beds only regret the things they did not do and not the things that they did.
Don't be that person!
Live life to the full!!
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